The Meaning Behind His Hug

If you’re out looking for some man play – be it through casual sex or standard gay online dating – you’ll know that every little hint counts. And that’s exactly where body language comes into play. Whether you are out on a first or second date, your partners’ gestures could tell you all you need to know about his true feelings for you.

One of the easiest ways of interpreting their intentions is through a simple hug. Consider it the ultimate scale of human emotions. Wimpy, half-assed hugs are always a let-down and can signify obligation. However, when the hug goes from being merely friendly to “let’s go somewhere a bit more private”, my ears perk up and suddenly everything is good in the world. In order to better decipher your next dates true intentions, read on for a list of the some of the most classic types of hugs and what they could say about the outcome of your outing.

The ‘Let’s Be Friends’ Hug – Despite them being a little longer than the traditional “hello hug”, these hugs usually involve wrapping your hands around your partner but never letting them go too far south. With the hands rested just below the shoulder they might occasional drift to the mid-back or upper arms – both still indicative of a ‘friends only’ hug. If he holds you for a little longer than normal, it could mean that he is just comforting you, but it could also mean that there is still a possibility of there being a little something extra. In which case, keep observing.

The ‘Maybe’ Hug – If you sense that the ‘Let’s Be Friends’ hug is turning into something extra, trust your gut. A good indication of this is when your partner presses his chest against yours while wrapping his arms around your shoulders. That is the quintessential “heart-to-heart” that almost always stands for additional feelings. Also keep in mind that if his hands linger and go lower than usual, your odds are probably quite high.

The ‘Definitely’ Hug – Regardless of whether you are meeting to test your compatibility as a couple or your potential as casual sex partners, lower-body contact is mostly always indicative of sexual chemistry. If he takes it one step further and hugs you from behind, you might as well start celebrating. The tighter the hug – and the longer it lasts – the more you can rest assured that intense feelings are involved.

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Posted by Green | Body Language, Gestures, Hug


  1. gleekastic
    03 Feb 2011, 12:42 pm

    I have a religious friend who only give side hugs because he’s scared of them being perceived as something else…LOL. His dates never cease to shoot him a puzzled look. Understandably so.

  2. Marvin
    03 Feb 2011, 1:36 pm

    I don’t know about you but the only time I’ve sen a hug that doesn’t involve touching chests comes from the ladies in The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and they are almost always coupled with some air kissing. I wouldn’t read too far into this.

  3. MissSuki
    03 Feb 2011, 3:21 pm

    I once met a guy through Manplay that hugged me from the back on our first meeting. Sure, I was only looking to get laid, but that was a bit too close for comfort. Needless to say it never went anywhere. I came up with some bullshit excuse and left him sitting there with his glass of white wine. *evil smile*

  4. timmytab
    03 Feb 2011, 3:39 pm

    why aren’t these posts showing up on my feed?!

  5. gleekastic
    04 Feb 2011, 10:03 am

    I also forgot to add that I like to intertwine legs when I feel like scaring a date off. Not only does it make them lose their balance but watching them scramble for excuses to leave is always positively delightful to watch. Next time you meet a troll, be sure to use this one.

  6. Ivalene
    23 Nov 2011, 2:35 am

    I’ll try to put this to good use immdeiately.

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